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Here is a typical teenage query:

"I'm faced with having sex for the first time with my girl friend. I have no idea what to do! HELP!"

So, what do you do if you haven't had sex before, you're in a loving relationship - ok, you might just be good friends - and you're both sure the time is right to move on? Well, first of all make a mental check list of the things that matter. Here are a few thoughts: Are you are both sure you want to go the whole way? There are alternatives - mutual masturbation and oral sex are often just as satisfying, for example.

Will you be able to do it in a loving, comfortable way in a place where you will feel safe?

Have you both discussed making love? If you can't talk openly, then maybe you need to rethink your plans.

Are you legally able to have sex? Have you given any thought to the legal position in your country - in other words, are you over the legal minimum age for sex?

And lastly - have you thought about contraception and protection from sexually transmitted diseases - especially if one of you has already had sex?

If you decide to go ahead with sex, you need to talk about it. Is it her first time too? If not, then you're lucky, because she can help you (e.g. you could say "I'm not quite sure how it works, but we could have fun finding out if you show me what to do!") There's no point pretending you are an experienced lover if you aren't!

Now, what about the physical side of it? An hour or two spent cuddling and kissing sensitively is a good way to reduce or release inhibitions and embarrassment about getting closer sexually. During this period of gentle affection, maybe you could gently caress her breasts - through her clothing - but as you work towards greater intimacy be sure to respect any signs she gives that she is uncomfortable with what you are doing AND STOP if she is.